Finding relationship takes a lot of time and dedication. Finding a person that you want to be with can be often feel very frustrating and even when you find the right one you still have to work as you make an effort to maintain your relationship.

If you’re looking a little advice when it comes to love this is one for you. This blog spoke about advices when you’re looking for someone:

1. Stop waiting and live your life
Don’t wait for the real love, they said that real love can wait, so live your life to the fullest. Don’t rush things it will come in the unexpected time. Look within and ask yourself first if there is still a part of your life that needs to work. Enjoy your life first

2. Sometimes love is where you’d least expect it
The hottest, most fun, interesting, growth stimulating, spontaneous, most romantic and most eye opening relationships or experiences were not with people that we thought to end up with.

Enjoy each interaction for what it was and not try to make it something it wasn’t, because at the end of the day, our life is just a conglomeration of memories and we have may memories to think on.

3. Put in some efforts
        First, you must simply put time and energy into dating. A combination of online dating and socializing is ideal. And second, go in dating in the right way, from a positive attitude to behavior on dates and communication with potential partners.

4. You are responsible for your own happiness
       It’s not your partner’s job to make you happy. It’s your job to make yourself happy. Of course it feels good when our partner are acting that way we want, but not in a certain way in order for us to feel good because that’s a bondage.

  If you’re looking for a someone to complete you or vice versa, you’re looking in the wrong direction for the long lasting happiness, wholeness and fulfilment that you truly seek.

5. Give your 90%
They said that give your 90% to your partner and both of you will be happy, this mean that it’s really important to think about your partner is feeling that try to stand in their shoes, to be giving and emotionally generous.

The 10% is for the understanding that sometimes it’s also ok to be a bit selfish, to place your needs first or stand firm on to something. Your relationship will work if both of are giving your 90%.

When you already find the person that you want to be with, always remember that your partner will be matured at all things. All relationship will go to the stage that you want to end things but it doesn’t mean that you will end it just simple as that.
   

The following are characteristics that you should have when you’re already with someone that you want to end up with:

1. Communication
This skill is very important. Being able to clearly and consistently state how are you feeling will mean that those Liitle fuss that might otherwise develop into something worse can resolved early on.
It’s also remembering that communicating doesn’t mean being able to make your own point or opinion well, but learning to listen what your partner is saying too. Try to employ ‘active listening’ when you’re talking to each other. Don’t just wait for your turn to speak but listen to what they are saying. Clarify things first.

2. Commitment
     In a long term relationship, commitment means being willing to work on difficulties together. Planning for the future together, clarifying and protecting the boundaries you’ve agreed on. And for the short term, it can also mean committing from moment to moment.

Even if you’re on your first date with someone, it’s important that you’re able to give your attention and interest instead of wondering what will happen in the future and letting your mind get full of doubt

3. Conflict
They said that arguing is inherited badly, but if there’s no conflict or whatsoever in your relationship, there’s a good chance that someone’s holding something back. Differences between you and your partner are pretty much inevitable, it’s how you deal with those differences that counts.

4. Empathy
        Sometimes the partner is willing to listen to what the other are saying, but listening to one another and trying to understand how each other is feeling doesn’t mean changing your own ideas or even necessarily admitting that you’re wrong, it’s just means showing to your partner that you care about how they’re feeling that you’re willing to make an effort to meet in the middle if necessary.

5. Love
     The ancient Greek has 3 word for love:
    
• Eros- this is erotic love. It means being attracted to each other. It’s the spark that makes your relationship exciting and special.

• Philios- this means friendship. It’s the feeling of understanding one another, enjoying each others company and having shared interest.

• Agape- this means being prepared to go out of your way for the other person and put them first.

Always remember that the right person will come at a right time. Don’t rush things in life enjoy your life and do what makes you happy